Tip and Tidbits

“You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it's all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith and hope.”     Thomas Merton, Love and Living

•  Re-focusing: Close your eyes. Slowly count your in-breath and the out-breath, up to ten breaths. 
Open your eyes. Aware of anything new? Try ten more. Breath deep, breath slow. 

•  "We do not see things as they are; we see things as we are."  - Talmud

•  Loving yourself is not a selfish act - it is an act of loving kindness.

•  Openness and honesty can bring two or more people together in a way that allows them to be present in conversation. In those moments of presence doing things with another person brings richness and strength to any relationship.

•  It's okay to ask for what you want or need, knowing that you don't always get what you've asked for.  -Virginia Satir

•  The "Big Three" emotions that constantly require our attention are guilt, anger, and fear.

•  Be responsible for what you think, say, and do, rather than projecting it on others or denying it.   -Virginia Satir

•  Empathic listening is deeply therapeutic and healing because it gives a person the feeling of being heard and understood. If all of a sudden that feeling changed and you felt like you were no longer being listened to, then survival would become your primary motivation and a defensive stance is taken. The greatest of all human needs and desires is to be understood, affirmed, loved, valued and appreciated. When that happens – contact has been made and we can relax and enjoy all that life has to offer.

•  We create many challenges in our everyday life by simply assuming that our expectations are self-evident and that they are clearly understood and shared by others around us. 

•  Loving is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the same direction.  
    -Antoine de Saint-Exupery

•  Where there is love there is life.  -Mohandas Gandhi

•  Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.  -Leo Buscaglia

Disclaimer: The information on this website is not intended to be a substitute for medical diagnosis and treatment. If you are experiencing physical pain or emotional crisis, consult a medical and/or mental health professional.

© 2017 Carl Sayles, PsyD